“Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” Galatians 1:10
Have you ever gotten extremely nervous before and or during a job interview? Have you ever gotten so nervous that you felt like you were not even yourself? Have you ever lied about who you are in an interview in order to get a job you now hate? Have you ever felt like a total loser after having an interview in which you realized you were totally inept for the position? Well, if you’ve had any of these feelings, you’re not alone. I’ve had a lot of job interviews, and I’ve had a lot of horrible experiences. At first I thought it was the interviewer’s fault that I hated interviews so much, but one day I realized that it wasn’t their fault that I dreaded interviews so much. It was mine. It was what I was doing and my mindset that was the problem. I realized that I could change, and so I did, and now, I actually enjoy job interviews. What did I change? Really it can be summed up in one main thing which I’ll expound on a bit with five interrelated tips. What’s the main thing you can do to start enjoying your job interviews and to start getting job offers for positions that you may actually enjoy? It’s this: Stop trying to get the job. That’s right. Stop trying to get the job. That is my first tip and the tip that supersedes all other tips.
- Don’t Try to Get The Job-
As I’ve already told you, I’ve had a lot of uncomfortable interviews in the past in which I was filled with anxiety, and interviews in which I’ve lied about myself and or sold myself short, but recently, things have changed. I’ve had several interviews lately, and they have all gone beautifully, and not only have they gone beautifully, I also found myself enjoying the interviews immensely. What’s made the difference?
Well, I’ve stopped trying to get jobs. I used to pray for God to help me get a job or some other silly prayer like that, but I’ve changed my prayer instead to, “Lord, just help me to be completely honest in this interview. Help the interviewer and myself to determine whether this is the right fit for me.” That’s the attitude you want to have in an interview. Consider it a meeting where you are on equal ground with the employer. You are offering them a service. You will see if you think they will be a good fit for you, and they are trying to see if you are a good fit for them. Both of these are good things, and the outcome doesn’t need to try to be controlled. You should be happy at the end of the meeting to find out you are not a good fit for them. That just saves you a lot of time you could have wasted working at a company that was not right for you.
- Let Your Potential Employer Know Who You Really Are-
You spend the majority of your day working. You want to enjoy those hours, and I can tell you that one of the biggest joy killers can be pretending to be someone you’re not or hiding who you really are in order to keep up appearances at work. I’ve done it. I’ve done it a lot. I’m a pretty weird person. Some employers don’t like people as weird as me, but then again, some employers love weird people like me. It’s best to be completely honest about who you are because you don’t want to spend your time feeling like you’ve got to hide who you are in order to keep your job. From the get go, in the interview go ahead and let the employer know who you are, it will save you a lot of pain down the road. If they don’t hire you because they don’t like who you are, it’s a good thing you didn’t work there. You don’t want to work for people who don’t like you.
- Interview The Employer
Don’t put yourself below the employer as if you’re some sort of beggar. You don’t have to go to work for them, and you do not want to accept a position that you do not think you’ll like or you do not feel comfortable working or for people whom you don’t feel comfortable working for. Treat the interview as a time that you are not only being interviewed to see if you are a good fit for them, but also treat it as a time to see if they are a good fit for you. Ask them questions, and don’t ask questions because you think it will make you look good. Never do that. That is going in with the wrong attitude of trying to get the job. Instead, ask questions to help you discern whether or not you want to work for them. That’s what you are trying to figure out in the interview.
- Desire to Be Found Out if You Are A Bad Fit
You don’t want to dress yourself up in the interview and pretend to be something you’re not. You actually want to do the exact opposite or else you’re going to be miserable in your job, trying to live up to the person you displayed in your interview. You actually want to be seen with flaws and all, and you want your potential employer to be given insight to determine whether or not they believe you would be a good fit for them. You want to help them make that decision. If they think you would be a bad fit for their company. That is good to know. You don’t have to just trust your intuition about that. They can help you decide whether or not you’re a good fit for them. That’s what the interview is all about.
Again. Don’t think of yourself as some sort of beggar. You are on equal ground with your potential employer. You are offering your employer a service. If he is unable to compensate you at a level that you feel content with, you do not want to work for him. You want to feel content with your pay. If you let yourself work for a wage you’re unhappy with, you’re not going to end liking your life too much. You’ll feel like you’re wasting your time working for such a low wage, and feel like you wasted your whole week when you see a measly pay check at the end of a 40 hour work week.
- Enjoy the Interview
Remember. You’re not trying to get the job here. You are meeting new people and getting to find out about a company, and they are asking questions about you, and getting to know you. Often times they are going to be asking questions that will help you get to know yourself better as well. Enjoy these questions and this interview process. It’s a great learning experience and doesn’t have to be a time filled with angst and worry. You can enjoy it and have fun.